A Meditative Approach to Happiness

Happiness has represented the one “thing” that every individual strives for throughout life. This search breaks all barriers that society has created, regardless of country, race, education, or other structures that create separation within humanity.

Everyone, regardless of being aware of it or not, is continuously on the look for a never-ending sense of well-being, walking towards what we think will bring pleasure and comfort, while at the same time, running away from what seems painful or might bring suffering.

Even people who behave in ways that cause physical or mental harm to others or on their person are, in reality, trying to look for a sense of satisfaction; they want to be happy and are merely trying to stop their sadness, depression, or anger.


We can all agree that FINDING TRUE HAPPINESS is a noble and truthful definition of life’s purpose. Although subjective, we all want to enjoy life. But what exactly is happiness? How do we get it? Let us explore this.

Temporary Happiness. Is it Worth it?

Mental excitement, satisfaction, and physical pleasure might bring the experience of feeling happy. Still, all these experiences of happiness only continue if the psychological and physical state is maintained, which is, of course, only for a short amount of time.

Can a person go throughout life deceiving themselves with short episodes of mental satisfaction and physical pleasure? Of course. WE DO THIS ALL THE TIME. It has its place in life, and as long as you’re not hurting others, it is generally an acceptable way of living.

But what is true happiness? Is this feeling just a state of mind? A conceptual ghost that we cannot see or catch? An imaginary entity who’s successfully evading us at will, especially when WE FINALLY GET THE THINGS THAT WE WANT, forcing us to question if we have been victims of our own created illusion.

Is happiness something that we can only experience through SHORT BURSTS of stimulation?

  • Eating an ice-cream might bring you a couple of minutes of happiness. Until the experience is over and you now need some water to clear your mouth of the after taste.
  • Going out for coffee with a friend can bring a couple of hours of happiness. Until you’re back home alone or you get upset by a mean comment that your friend made.
  • Buying yourself something expensive, fun, exciting, or “nice” could cause a month or two of happiness. Until that “thing” quickly becomes old news or irrelevant.
  • Taking a vacation to the Caribbean might provide a few months of happiness. Until you’re done bragging about it and back to your old routine at home, bored out of your mind.
  • Getting a new car can give you a year or two of happiness. Until the first squeak noise on the right tire, or when your car is not “brand new” anymore
  • A new house will make you happy for some years. Until the idea of a bigger house appears in your head.

Is there something wrong with enjoying material things, going after goals, and getting the things you desire? OF COURSE, NOT! it is good to thrive, hustle, work hard, and achieve your goals; those are great things; they are part of life.

But we’re not talking about that; what we’re asking here is:
Is this the ONLY way we’re supposed to live life? Is there a happiness that is not bound to any external condition or situation?

Or should we just blindly behave like addicts looking for the next dose of stimulation and somehow try to be happy through these things all the time? Going through life unable to wake up, with a numbed mind and a dead heart.

As Historian Herbert A. L. Fisher said back in the early 1900s:

 “…is one damn thing after another.”

– H. A. L. Fisher

The Self-Deceiving Chase for Temporary Happiness

The chase for temporary happiness begins since we are children and continues throughout our lives. Society does a great job of training us to look for our sense of happiness, our completion, and our identity in the outside world.

By acquiring objects, improving your image, and many other badges of accomplishments, which would help tell others who you are, what your value is, and your worth.

Dr. Wayne Dyer described this as a state constructed of three false “faces,” creating an illusory sense of self (the EGO). The belief in this collection of ideas is the cause and root of your unhappiness:

  • I am what I have.- My possessions define me! So we go all our life accumulating, trying to get more things and add them to our identity. And when we no longer have, then we no longer ARE, we lose our identity.
  • I am what I do. My achievements define me! So when they fade and are forgotten, I will fade and be forgotten also.
  • I am what others think of me. My reputation defines me! So, what other people think of me, is more important than what I think of myself, and who I truly am.

THIS APPROACH TO LIFE IS THE ESSENCE OF AN UNHAPPY LIFE; it creates a chase, a never-ending game without ever finding the promised prize of true happiness.

What if happiness is not something to be chased?

“There is no way to happiness, happiness is the way.”

-Wayne Dyer

The Beginning of the Chase for Temporary Happiness

While in kindergarten, adults treat us as if we still don’t have an identification sense of self, “he’s just a kid, let’s wait and see what he/she will become in the future.” Meanwhile, we have an INCOMPLETE being.

Are children not complete? Do we need to wait until they acquire whatever labels they will? Why can’t we see people AT ANY STAGE OF LIFE as complete individuals?, why can’t we see others as “being ENOUGH” at any moment, regardless of their age, appearance, mental structure, and journey?

Of course, children need our help, protection, and guidance; they must learn and develop skills, knowledge, character, and personality. Still, we fail to acknowledge that they are COMPLETE human beings.

They might look like two-foot little people wobbling around, unable to put three words together while drooling all over the place. Still, regardless of what mental or physical stage they are currently at, they are a COMPLETE and ALIVE individual just like you. They are in a constant process of change and growth, the same as you are.

However, as we grow up, even during adulthood, we keep treating each other as incomplete beings until the point we die.

This sense of not arriving yet, of being incomplete, sticks to our sense of being throughout life, always chasing something, the next thing, an illusion, and never getting there, one step behind where you want to be.

As Alan Watts said: “we condition our children to a defective sense of identity.”

Below are a video and excerpt from a lecture by Alan Watts on the subject.

“…but instead of that, we still retain an attitude to the child that he is on probation; he is not really a human being; he is a candidate for humanity.

And in just this way, we have a whole system of preparation of the child for life which always is preparation and never actually gets there.

In other words, we have a SYSTEM OF SCHOOLING which starts with grades. And we get it always preparing for something that’s going to happen.

So you go into NURSERY SCHOOL as preparation for KINDERGARTEN. You are going to kindergarten for preparation for FIRST GRADE, and then you go up the grades ’til you get to HIGH SCHOOL, and then comes a time when maybe if we can get you fascinated enough with this system, you go to college.

And then, when you go to COLLAGE, if you are smart, you get in the graduate school and stay a perpetual student and go back to be a professor and just go round and round in the system.

But in the ordinary way, they do not encourage quite that, they want you, after GRADUATE school or after graduation, commencement as it’s called, beginning to get out into THE WORLD with a capital W. And so you know, you’ve been trained for this, and now you’ve arrived.

But when you get out into the world, at your first sales meeting, they’ve got the same thing going again, because they want you to make that quota and if you do make it, they give a higher quota.

And come along about 45 years of age, maybe you are a Vice President. And it suddenly dawns on you that you’ve arrived with a certain sense of having been cheated because it is just the same life as it always felt.

And you are conditioned to be in desperate need of a future. So the final goal that this culture prepares for us is called retirement – when you will be a senior citizen, and you will have the wealth and the leisure to do what you always wanted, but you will at the same time impotence, rotten prostate, and false teeth and no energy. So, the whole thing from beginning to end is a hoax.”

“The Play of Life”, Alan Watts

The reflection above reminds me of a chapter from the classic book “The Death of Ivan Ilyich.”
At one point, Ivan asks his wife on his deathbed:

 “What if my whole life has been wrong?”

– The Death of Ivan Ilyich, Leo Tolstoy

Here’s a great clip from Mr. Wayne Dyer discussing this scene:

So, the bigger question should be:
Is there such a thing as CONTINUOUS Happiness?
Is there a happiness that is NOT dependent on things, objects, or transitory events?

At the end of this article, we will address this possibility. For now, bear with me, and let us take this one step at a time.

What is Happiness?

It is mindboggling how, even though this is an ESSENTIAL aspect of life, most people struggle to answer this question. So, to explore the meaning of happiness, we must agree on a definition; this way, we can move forward and inquire about the same idea.

We will begin by examining the current definition found in the dictionary:

HAPPINESS refers to a positive mental or emotional state of being, commonly expressed as intense joy. It’s also used in the context of life satisfaction and subjective well-being.

Let us examine this definition.

“A positive mental or emotional state of being.”

Notice how in NO PART of this definition does it say that external objects, specific conditions, or situations are necessary to reach this state. This section of the definition solely describes a JOYFUL STATE OF BEING.

“…also used in the context of life satisfaction and subjective well-being.”

This second part of the definition refers to life satisfaction and well-being. Both are SUBJECTIVE, meaning that they depend on personal perspectives. In other words, whatever makes one person happy will not necessarily satisfy another.

Therefore, Happiness is:  

This definition means that ANYONE can have the experience of Happiness REGARDLESS of who, what, or where they are. The happiness which most people know is temporary; it comes and goes depending on the situations and events during life.

However, no matter what you have or lack, happiness is accessible for anyone right here and now.

Happiness might come to a street performer, a person who has survived a terminal illness, a house painter, a grandmother, a carpenter, or anybody experiencing a joyful situation or a compatible life in harmony.

Can you tell if you live a happy or unhappy life?

True happiness is a sublime state of being that reflects on a person as a constant and joyful sense of peace of mind. Happy individuals do not have time to invest in other people’s businesses.

A happy person does not feel incomplete; they do not need to look outside themselves for a sense of identity. Happy people are not concerned about other people’s opinions.

When you give importance to the opinions of others, what you are saying is: “Your opinion of me, is more important than my opinion of myself

Imagine living a life with such idiotic belief!

What do happy people look like?

Does this mean the person needs to be smiling and laughing all day like a lunatic?
No. A happy person could be anyone you look at, regardless of what state they appear to be in through your eyes.

Does a happy person have to say “yes” to every request?
No. Your sense of right and wrong, inclinations, and preferences remain intact.

Does a happy person need to like everyone?
No, some people are incompatible. It does not mean that you hate them or wish them harm; it merely means that they do not trigger joy when they are with you or around you.

Can a happy person get upset?
Of course. Emotions are biological; they are a part of your personality. However, these become more responsive than reactive, no grudges are held, and all are commonly short-lived.

A Happy Person Acts in Harmony According to the Situation

We are not denying or quitting our humanity, preferences, and ability to distinguish right from wrong. Happy people will defend injustice when needed and fight for their freedom and rights if they are negated or challenged.

A happy person still responds accordingly; if assertiveness and strength are required, the person will act as such. Even a reaction that might seem like anger might arise from time to time, especially when facing aggression and hostility from an unconscious or unhappy individual.

However, for the happy person, these episodes disappear once the friction or altercation has ended. Happy people will not resent, hate, nor hold judgment; they forget, adjust, and move on. Only sustained anger becomes hate.

An Unhappy person constantly fixates in other people’s business.

Unhappy people go through life in a constant state of anger and dissatisfaction. Grievance looking for a cause. They can pull others into their state of mind. Unhappy people will do a great job of pretending to be functional and emotionally stable members of society.

However, it is a matter of time to turn a pleasant conversation into a discussion or a friendly environment into a toxic one for these individuals. Curiously, even people who approach them with good intentions receive in exchange anger, disgust, hostility, and criticism.

They feed on negativism and minding other people’s business. That is their default matter in which they live their life. They need to see other people’s misfortune or struggle to have a sense of completion and worth.

Many years ago, radio broadcaster Howard Stern was having a conversation on the air with a staff member. It was, of course, about some gossip about Howard, which the staff member had just read over the weekend. Howard’s reply to this was on point:

“Do you know how much time of my weekend I spend thinking, talking about, or EXAMINING your life?”
“ZERO!” Howard said. He then continued,

“You see, my life is so rich and full of joy and happiness, with my wife, family, my projects, the hobbies I love, and many things I enjoy that I don’t have one second to spare on thinking about your business.”

-Howard Stern

The Clever Tricks of an Unhappy Person

Unhappy people lack passion and purpose in their lives; they feel emptiness, which they need to be repeatedly filling with distraction. This empty feeling expresses an urgent need for self-worth; our need to belong, be liked, and be accepted is a standard emotional inclination within our humanity.

However, it is because of this lack of passion and purpose that the unhappy individual experiences that they can’t grow or improve as human beings. This condition is where the madness begins because IT IS EASIER TO PUSH DOWN ON OTHERS THAN TO GROW THROUGH ACHIEVEMENT, hustle, dedication, and hard work.

The Unrequested Help (“It’s for your own good” technique)

Regardless of if the unhappy person does it unconsciously or cleverly on purpose, it is cowardly, lazy, and cruel. It takes a lot of awareness to realize what the unhappy person is trying to do.

An unhappy person does not border, asking if the other wants their opinion or not. They simply need to “put you down” so they can feel better about themselves. Remember, they cannot improve and become better people; therefore, they will try to push others down with prejudgments and criticism.

The “You are Less than me” Deception

When your life, choices, or way of living don’t fit into an unhappy person’s LIST OF REQUIREMENTS of who they need YOU to be, you will either get attacked or disposed of.

This means that for an unhappy(or unconscious) person, it is crucial to know if your storyline, image, or what you represent, can be useful to improve their personal life and image.

If you’re lucky, you could be dealing with the unhappy person walking away and wisely minding their own business, which is the most intelligent and peaceful act anyone can do when dealing with incompatibility.

However, a good percentage of them will stick around and try to make your life a nagging, finger-pointing, and never-ending unrequested seminar.

When you deal with these types of individuals, there’s really nothing you can do; there is no argument that can become harmonious with them. The best thing is looking for a better company and healthier friends;

There cannot be a joyful relationship between both because their values are different from yours. While you value honesty, passion, meaning, purpose, inspiration, kindness, hustle, effort, persistence, and many other good qualities, they are merely looking for financial worth and social status.

Not only that, but they will also try to impose, force, and manipulate you and everyone into thinking the same way they do. They don’t have the interest or perhaps the capability to questions and analyze if their beliefs are objective or not.

It doesn’t take much to discover that these measurement factors are erroneous within life and couldn’t be farther from the truth. Attributing fame, wealth, and “success” to the worth and value of a person is illogical. History within our society can easily reveal the truth behind this, simply look around you and confirm for yourself.

Vincent Van Gogh lived in poverty and never earned a penny for any of his paintings. Today they sell in the millions of dollars. Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart was careless about money and lived in poverty while writing some of the most beautiful classical symphonies ever composed.

We all know unintelligent or ignorant people who live in wealth; some might have their private plane, wasting money on unnecessary things, trips worldwide, etc. Still, they are unhappy, unsatisfied, and bitter all the time.

Similarly, we can have intelligent and talented individuals living a simple happy life, with passion, wonder, full of peace, and joy.

Therefore, the correct measurement for a person’s worth and value must be something greater and tangible.

As former President Calvin Coolidge of the U.S. put it:

“Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence.

Talent will not;
nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent.

Genius will not;
unrewarded genius is almost a proverb.

Education will not;
the world is full of educated derelicts.

Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent.”

– Calvin Coolidge

These are the objective qualities that can determine a person’s value, the quality of their integrity, an honest drive in life, the hustle in his heart, the passion for what they love, and as Mr. Calvin Coolidge mentioned, persistence and determination.

Living with such a philosophy might not guarantee an easier life or a Hollywood movie’s desired life story. But however it plays ups and downs, you’ll know that whatever experience is happening, this moment is happening by conscious “OPTION,” not by lack of intellect or reasoning skills.

How to Clean your life from unhappy people and toxic environments?

This adjustment is the most straightforward task you’ll ever take. It only requires honesty and courage on your part. When you’re honest with yourself, you will finally be able to spend your time and space doing the things you really enjoy.

There’s no need anymore to say “yes” to every single request that people offer you.

You’ll understand that a healthy, peaceful, and assertive “no” is the most honest, fruitful, and kindest act that you can do. It destroys unnecessary hypocrisy and uncomfortable situations.

Think about it, if a friend does not like to go to the movies, why do I need to insist and drag him o her to the theater? Of course, there are exemptions, and if you can go, and there’s no harm done, we can be kind and play along.

However, in reality, people tend to bombard all their relationships with these types of demands. So we have to be brave and give a peaceful “no thank you” and move on.

If others get offended because they can’t understand why you are not interested or compatible with the offer or request, that’s their issue; that’s the work they need to do on themselves.

This simple act will clean your life from toxicity. By acting with honesty, people who aren’t compatible will gradually but surely move away from you because you’re no longer useful to them; this will turn out to be perfect.

Why would you want to surround yourself with unhappy people who don’t bring joy to your life? Similarly, you will notice that people who are compatible with you will joyfully come into your life.

The Money & Financial “Card” Game

These individuals can also be extremely clever with how they do this; some who, regardless of being financially secure and having wealth, still constantly complain about how much things cost or how much they have to spend here and there.

Although they might appear to be outraged about the cost and expenses, in reality, they are merely bragging about it. They want to make a statement that they can afford what others can’t. They want to feel powerful, special, and better than the rest.

Individuals who are not happy WILL EVEN use the opportunity to “help” others, pretending that kindness and compassion are the motives, while in reality, the true agenda is making themselves feel above and better than others.

If you have been or are currently a victim of this routine, do not engage; simply remove that person away from your life. It is easier to find healthier quality individuals and better company than to heal an unhappy person.

“Never argue with unhappy people because they will drag you down to their world and then beat you with experience.”

Unhappy people do not care about your journey or understand the situations and challenges of your life, your preferences, the reason for your decisions, or what you want and how you want to live life.

They simply want to have a negative opinion about you, to make you wrong, and to talk to other people about it so they can make themselves feel better.

As you can imagine, the clever list of tricks used by an unhappy person seems to be endless. These mentioned above are just a few.

If you find yourself identifying with these behaviors, I can only encourage you to BECOME CONSCIOUS ABOUT IT and work on yourself in becoming a better version of yourself; think about the people you might be hurting and how you also are hurting yourself.

You might find yourself feeling more empathetic towards others, being more compassionate, loving, peaceful, and happy. Of course, this can only happen if you’re interested.

Is There a Specific Blueprint for Happiness?

There’s a great story told by Jerry Seinfeld that summarizes this whole happiness issue:

Glen Miller Orchestra, 1966.

“The remaining members of the Glen Miller Orchestra have been reduced to taking whatever work they can get, and so have signed on to play a Christmas Eve gig at a VFW a hundred miles from home.

The night is bitterly cold, and on the way to the gig, it starts to sleet and snow. About a mile from the hall, the bus slides off an embankment and gets stuck in the snow. The members discuss what to do, and they realize that if they walk, they can still make their starting time.

So, dressed only in tuxes and patent leather shoes, they begin slogging through the freezing wind and ice, instruments in hand. Just before they get to the hall, they come upon a country home lit from within, its chimney puffing.

Through the windows, they can see a father, mother, four grandparents, two well-kept children, and a dog, gathered around a beautiful, glorious dinner table in front of a roaring fire.

The family members are laughing, warmly affectionate towards one another, and they are about to carve up a magnificent Christmas turkey.

Watching this scene, one of the musicians turns to his bandmates and says,
“How can people live like that?”

You see, the musicians lived for music; they couldn’t conceive the idea of being sheltered in a house living a family life; their happiness blueprint was traced with concerts, melodies, living on the road, and playing their music.

This means that if you were to impose the model of your life and what makes YOU happy into another person with different inclinations, they would probably be miserable. They don’t want your life; your life is the last thing they want.

You might see this as incomprehensible, and you might even try to justify your need to tell others what to do, with phrases like “it’s for their own good” and such nonsense.

Even worse, while the other is not asking to “fix” anything nor requesting other people’s opinions. WE HAVE TO UNDERSTAND THIS IN OTHER TO BE HAPPY AND LIVE IN PEACE.

Not understanding this is violent by nature; means that YOU are incapable of letting people live as they wish.

It means that your necessity of imposing your ideas and telling people what to do is more important than their FREEDOM to explore life as they wish.

Your “blueprint” of how a person should live life is only valid to your point of understanding and consciousness; it is NOT a GOLDEN RULE to enforce on others. Trying to do this causes conflict and friction between people; it is a selfish act.

If you’re a person that finds this hard to grasp, consider letting this go. Happy individuals DO NOT HAVE TIME to intrude on other people’s businesses; they mind their own.

Happy people are so rich and full of joy, activities with their friends, family, hobbies, and passion for life that it is IMPOSSIBLE for them to find a space in their day and try to “fix” or criticize other people’s lives.

Choosing Happiness: The Three Essential Phases

Is happiness possible available for anyone right here and now? Absolutely. All that is needed is to let go of false ideas and to bring awareness to what’s happening within us. We must open our eyes and objectively take a hard look at our own mental patterns, misconceptions, fears, and insecurities. The only things required are interest and honesty.

Phase#1.- Realize What True Happiness Really Is.

This entire article can help you with completing this phase. We have taken a bold and detailed trip on this subject. It is vital to understand that happiness is not an exclusive event composed of your particular checklist of things, circumstances, believes, or events. This point is critical.

We tend to think that our way is the only way; this could not be farther from the truth. We’ve already explored that your idea of happiness only applies to you.

Of course, there’s a general sense of basic needs that any human being strives for; after all, we all share the same innate “pull” as a race; we all need shelter, clothing, food, water, and necessary skills for survival.

Those are our shared responsibilities as human beings. Anything other than these is OPTIONAL. Whatever a person needs to add to these basic needs is their own trip, decision, interest, and inclination.

If, for any reason, you have learned or believed that YOU need “this or that” to be happy, that’s YOUR understanding. It doesn’t mean it is right, and it doesn’t matter how many other people subscribe to a similar belief justified by the ignorant phrase, “well, everybody is doing it.

We fail to see that Truth is NOT a democracy. The masses DO NOT indicate intelligence. As professor Isaac Asimov once said:

“…the false notion that democracy means that ‘my ignorance is just as good as your knowledge

-Isaac Asimov”

Furthermore, it should not be imposed on others. Doing such a thing would be an act of violence of the freedom of others, to explore life as they are inclined to, regardless of them meeting your criteria or not.

Phase#2.- Realize the Harm You’re Causing

Being happy should bring a likewise experience to the people around you, everyone you share space with, your family, friends, and those you love. Have you ever asked yourself what kind of experience you are giving them when they interact with you?

“The way you make others feel is a proper measurement for the quality of person you are. “

What would the people that you interact with say about you? Would they say they love being with you, that they enjoy your conversations? Would they say that you provide healthy perspectives of life or that you’re happy all the time?

Would they say that they really enjoy your company?  Or would they say that you are always in a bad mood, angry at life, hating, judging others, trying to tell people what to do and how to live their lives? If this is your case, do you think it is fun for them? If you were them, would you look forward to seeing you again?

Comedian Chris Rock once said:

“At the end of the day, it comes down to “people,” think of it this way, if you had to take a long car drive with someone, and you had to choose either taking a NICE NEW CAR with a shitty person or a shitty car with YOUR BEST FRIEND, you would pick your friend every single time.”  

-Chris Rock

The main question is, what kind of experience do you offer as a person? Not financially, through possession or external things, those can be bought or transferred through wallets or bank accounts; we are referring to “you” as a person, inside, who you are as a human being.

“I can do nothing for you but work on myself…you can do nothing for me but work on yourself!”

-Ram Dass

Phase#3.- Understanding Happiness vs. Success in Life?

We tend to link and relate happiness with success in life. However, success is another word that tends to be subjective across the board. Your definition of success likely differs plenty from everyone else.

Therefore, the wisest approach would be to stick to the current definition found in an approved and legit source, in this case, Oxford University Press (OUP) dictionary.

Success means: “the accomplishment of an aim or purpose.”

There are a few secondary definitions where the attainment of popularity and profit is mentioned, but NONE OF THESE DEFINITIONS mention, include, or indicate any relation with HAPPINESS.

A person might be successful at creating chaos and misfortune for himself and others; that’s not happiness. You could be successful at destroying a loving relationship; that does not bring happiness either.

So why do we always connect one with the other? Simple, in most cases, we relate the word “success” with material gain and abundance, with the current financial state of an individual, as well as their particular achievements and, in some cases, even their level of social impact and popularity.

All these elements (financial state, achievements, and social popularity) are experiences that MIGHT BRING US MENTAL AND PHYSICAL PLEASURE, as well as comfort.

Both experiences (pleasure and comfort) are commonly mistaken for happiness because TRUE happiness might carry fragments of these two feelings.

However, as we already explored, pleasure and comfort are only the CRUMBS from a vast banquet of peace, joy, and love, which is what TRUE HAPPINESS is.

A new definition of Success

So, how can we fully merge true happiness with success? Simple, if the definition of success is to accomplish a purpose, then the purpose should be to find happiness in every single moment.

“When we dance, the journey itself is the point, as when we play music, the playing itself is the point.”

-Alan Watts

Does the trophy you won consider “success,” or is it THE PERSON YOU’VE BECOME through hustle, practice, and training the real reward?

What if success has NOTHING to do with a chase for things, money, reputation, labels, and badges? What if success is NOT at the end of a goal, but instead, it flourishes during THE JOURNEY of everything we do?

What if success means growing in understanding, compassion, and love, not only as human beings but also as part of the cosmic consciousness we’re all a part of?

What if the game is bigger than what we think it is?

A Non-dual Perspective for Happiness.

We will close this article with a non-dualistic approach to happiness. In other words, we aim to reveal the possibility of happiness as one undivided field rather than a divisive phenomenon.

Non-Duality and Temporary Happiness

Any state that comes and goes is dualistic by nature. All temporary feelings that arise and fall need a “field” from where to emerge and disappear; this field is undivided; it is non-duality.

Its nature is happiness, independent of objects or concepts. Discover this ever-present field, and realize the only thing that is real, your true nature, which is unconditional happiness.

“Happiness is your nature. It is not wrong to desire it. What is wrong is seeking it outside when it is inside.”

– Sri Ramana Maharshi 

3 examples of people living their PURPOSE

I recently wrote an article where we look at 3 examples of people living their PURPOSE and what GENUINE happiness looks like. You can check it out here!

Non-Duality and the Self-Deceiving Chase for Temporary Happiness

At the beginning of this article, there is a reflection by Alan Watts, where he describes our never-ending rat race in the search for happiness.

When we bring awareness into our lives, we begin to explore, inquiry, question our motives and the paths painted in our way.

It is only then when we can stop and recognize the madness behind it. Furthermore, with strength and persistence, a new understanding reveals that happiness is not attained through the acquisition of goals and objects; instead, we discover that it is present here and now.

From this field where decisions can arise with harmony, you’ll find yourself engaged in activities that are more in balance, harmony, and compatible with you, instead of going through life blindly reacting to this and that, being pushed around by the winds of situations. And finally, one day realizing that you have never been happy.

More importantly, we don’t need to wait for years of unconscious behavior to realize this phenomenon. All it takes is the observation of it. You will notice that the “here and now” is an undivided source, a non-dualistic field where all there is, IS peace and happiness.

Try these 5 Minute Meditation Exercises inspired by methods & teaching from Nisargadatta Maharaj, Ramana Maharshi, Adyashanti, Ram Dass, Neem Karoli Baba, and many other truthful and honest teachers.



George H.

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